We read so much from the body language of the healer, from her or his energy, voice, and level of attentiveness to us, the client. It usually happens during the first in-person encounter, but is is harder to do this unconscious screening test when seeking a long-distance healer. It may require patience, and trial and error.
What I look for in my healer, the person I will trust with my most private thoughts and concerns, is a deep level of compassion, true caring for me, and a drive to take the clients' health to new levels over time. I don't care whether my healer is stylish, has wrinkles, has gray hair, or what style of eating she or he has. Great herbalists tend to look alike to me: a little like hikers, like mushroom pickers, like serious gardeners. Their hair is often a fascinating giveaway: longish, grayish or black, crazy, dry like straw. Who knows why? And their connection to plants', animals', and stones' spirits becomes registered on their face.
Since you live far away, here is my face on a regular day. Tired as usual, hair gets crazy and indeed is dry. I hope you see something in my face that makes you trust, surrender the armor. A level of trust is helpful so the healer can hear your whole story and address the most pressing or most heartfelt needs first.
My process of working with a client and selecting essences for a custom blend is not fast, it is not just intellectual choosing, and in fact sometimes I put so much energy into it that I can only work on one to two blends a day. But this energy I put in becomes bound with the blend and travels in your bottle to you, to give you a stronger medicine.
But even if you choose to try an essence of a single flower or gem rather than a custom blend, your essence will bear my imprint. Say you are trying a yarrow flower essence, for example. Ours is made from the wild plants growing in their native habitat, not from a garden plant, and there are other careful choices that I have made along the way of making and storing this essence that reinforce its message. I am not saying our yarrow is the best or the only one to try, but I do hope you will find that it works reliably, and that something about that bottle makes you seek it out and use it often.